Author Mike Siver brings an exciting new release, focusing on a topic that is becoming more important than ever and yet, not very discussed from a practical perspective: reputation. Reputation is something that can be hard to earn and even harder to fix at any age. In this regard, it is very important to understand what contributes to how others perceive your name and who you are.
Your Name: How to Build and Repair Your Reputation at Any Age is centered on how you can truly value your name and teach others to do the same. Siver’s work is meant to help young people consider this aspect of their lives and change, but it can benefit readers of any age, as it addresses situations that might happen across their lifetime.
For kids and adolescents, the focus is on guiding youth to change and for allowing adults to help them on this journey. Siver outlines several key concepts and guidelines that need to be followed for the best results. The first characteristic is being firm in regards to the situations and the consequences that doing or not doing something has. Chores, for example, need to be considered as a responsibility with clearly outlined effects.
Another guideline is being fair. For example, working with kids of different ages needs to consider their varying levels of skills and development. In addition, privileges and responsibilities change, and adults should not ask for things that are unjust or impossible.
Another element is being consistent. Inconsistency damages the stability of a teen or a kid and also hurts the overall goals of developing responsibility and reputation.
Limits, responsibilities, chores, and similar issues are something that most adults with authority struggle with. Some fall into patterns that are too strict: asking kids or teens to do things they cannot yet do or demanding a level of maturity they have not reached. Additionally, many ask for a lot of responsibility without providing freedom or autonomy to go along, which breeds frustration and resentment. Others fall into patterns of being too permissive, which means that kids never learn responsibility or assume consequences for their actions. Another common mistake is the lack of a consistent and fair response. Instead, adults respond depending on their mood, so they are permissive when in a good mood and strict when in a poor one.
The book is an important guide for parents and generally for adults who often interact with youth and kids and who want to support them as best as they can while valuing themselves. It is about building who you are as well, as many techniques are applicable across the lifespan. Beyond the educational aspect, the book addresses themes like dating, social issues like racism, and also events throughout one’s life, like becoming a parent or a grandparent, and who you can make your life valuable.
This is a unique book in its scope, and how Siver draws from his experience to create something wide-reaching with a lot of principles that can be applied throughout the years to educating others but mainly yourself. You can find the ebook for Your Name on Amazon and website mikesiver.com.